“I HATE BEING IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN TWO GUYS.”

No, it’s never the other man. People have always been suggesting if you still fall for someone even after being in love already, choose the second one; but this never is acceptable to me.

Source: [GODYLDE.ca team]

I cannot believe it. Nor can I accept.

You meet a man and fall in love, you both, and he gives you the entirety of what he can, for you seek to get all in the return of what you give. You walk along through time, and things begin to change.

His busy schedule feels to you be ignorance. What had you considered? What had you put up as your expectation? For him to leave everything of his because he wants you? Impractical. Ornamented. Unrealistic. He still has his job to do and work to go on, friends to meet and family to look on. He cannot give you his 100% of the time.

Life isn’t a pinch of magic and a white-horse-riding-prince-fairy-tale.

And love surely doesn’t fill a hungry stomach.

You argue, instead of understanding. Hate, instead of loving.

You are the time he wants to avoid when he is free, instead of being the only face that he wishes to see when can.

Source: [The Atlantic]

Meanwhile, you meet somebody. Somebody who feels like your man did, when you were just seeing each other. And you, I wonder how though, start questioning your man’s love.

If that’s cheating? Yes, it is.

If your man does stay in your thoughts all the time, how can you let someone else invade them?

If your man is the one you believe to be the one, how can the other fickle your words?

YOU are letting him in; they aren’t making space for themselves! There’s a difference between these two statements. A lot much difference, much more real than your feelings for any of them.

Hold it.

Source: [weheartit.com]

Starting a relationship is easy.

When we get into it, feeling butterflies in the tummy, peace with the hands holding, wishing for forever and together, thinking it would always stay the same. But does it? Stay that way?

He used to make you feel important, be with you or around nearly all the time.

Living in a relationship is a task.

You’d have to handle the changes in your partner and stay constant with the ones in you. You’d have to manage seeking time for them and, again, be understanding when they don’t. You’d HAVE to trust blindly and love faithfully. If this is ‘love’, this will survive through all the downs that you’d face. And that would build the best major part of your life; and he, the architecture of it.

And then, no matter how many guys you meet, the first thing you’ll notice in him is that he is not your man and he can never be. Even if he gives you attention in the times when your man is busy making your, two’s, future secured, if he keeps you happy when you are pissed after a long argument of disapproval, because he holds a different perception, which he always did (this isn’t new, is it?), even if he’s getting you flowers and things, when your man doesn’t even get time to come see you, as he wishes that when he does, he gives you time enough; he knows that you deserve it; and when he’s trying to make space in your heart, when your man doesn’t, for he already owns it.. and even if it be a day which he makes the best, still remember that at the end of it all, it’s your man you’d want to go as home, whose absence can still swing your good mood to bad, and who still can make your worse to smiling in nanoseconds. Remember that your man is the one who brings butterflies fluttering inside you and leaves a blush on your face for hours, just by the way he looks at you.

Source: [pixabay]

And if you still choose the second guy, you never really loved the first.

And you’d never even to him.

If you could leave the reason of your life for somebody who just entered it, you might not even give a tiny consideration of thought to leaving this.

After all, relationships are, to you, a game of finding somebody better each time! It was your love that did not have the power to stay. Oh wait, was it even love?

And behold!

What woman does that make you?

With the loyalty I’m talking of, dear men, if she waits and keeps on to, and you still keep her waiting and weeping and slipping off from your heart, I still would look deep into your eyes with the same pity and ask, ‘What man does that make you?’